Everyone is worth it
In the world of couples therapy, there are several movements. The most common form of relationship therapy is EFT. This form of therapy addresses the issues that arise on an emotional and emotional level. This does not work when you are dealing with a mental illness in one of the partners. Then it is impossible to change patterns. It is then the choice of the other partner to continue to be patient with it and try to bring in a psychotherapist. Therapies that are better suited to this are IBCT and CBCT and provide the DIY relationship therapy.
Often it is about negative interaction patterns
Dissatisfaction in the relationship increases when partners are not meeting each other’s relational needs. Over time, this can create increasing frustration, separation and distance and can chill love. But most of all, it is the interaction patterns, which follow the dissatisfaction, that begin to break up the relationship. Negative interaction patterns are in principle often attempts to solve the dissatisfaction by asking the other for understanding and adjustment. Negative interaction patterns are fruitless attempts to change the other person or make them see something, which however meet with undesired counter-reactions from the other person and in which partners reinforce each other in undesired behavior.
It is often not so easy to put the underlying feelings and dissatisfaction into words. Due to accumulation of annoyances, relational desires are often expressed in anger and as reproach. Experiencing disregard within the attachment relationship often produces great anger and frustration. People need to find understanding and support from their partner. Anger and reproach often cause the other person to dig in their heels. He feels attacked, goes on the defensive or in the counterattack. In this hostile environment it is even more difficult for the first person to share the underlying, often more vulnerable feelings. The anger and discussion are a protection against having to be vulnerable.